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Films to get married to

Since I just proposed to my girlfriend I thought that a feature about films on all things marriage related would be wise. So this week we're going to look at films that are around the topic of marriage, engagements and love in general.

What films do you most associate with engagements and marriage? Which best define the whole idea of marriage, or define the worst elements? Are there some films you can throw at me and shot "lord no Richard, don't do it", and prove your point through the film or a scene?

I'm actually a bit of a romantic, so once again Always arrives on my list, but so does Field of Dreams and for very different reasons. Costner's onscreen wife has to put up with her husband going mad, in her eyes anyway, and for most of the film she stands by him and keeps believing, way past any other people have given him up. Now that's marriage.

I'm sure everyone has their personal scene or line from Four Weddings and a Funeral that sums up what marriage and love is all about. I know that as my life has progressed I can identify with different moments for different reasons. The unrequited love of Fiona (Kristin Scott Thomas), the just settle down with someone that you just get along with scene, and the I didn't notice it was raining moment will all spark chords with some.

So what about you? What films spark off the images of love, engagement and marriage in your mind? What films define what marriage is all about to you, or show the best or worst of marriages? Runaway Bride? The Break-Up? Father of the Bride? Apocalypse Now? Let the advice and life lessons commence.



Well firstly - congratulations!
As for films about marriage/weddings, the only one I love that springs to mind is 'The Wedding Singer' - so my suggestion is to have an '80's theme' wedding and maybe if it doesn't clash with Adam Sandler's schedule, you can get him to bring his band, complete with Boy George look-a-like to provide the entertainment! ;-)

*Simone jumping up and down like a slinky*

Hey, first and foremost congratulations are in order here. I am so pleased for you two! Rich, I will be very interested to know how you proposed, but let's do that in email. ;D Again, congratulations! Please pass the message on to Z will ya? *winks*

As per this article, to me, it has to be 1987's "Moonstruck", starring Cher and Nicolas Cage. If you have seen this gem of a film, I bet that your favorite scene and line were those spoken between Nicholas Cage (Ronnie) and Cher (Loretta), remember this immortal lines? "Loretta, I love you, not like they told you love is, and I didn't know this either, but love don't make things nice - it ruins everything. It breaks your heart. It makes things a mess. We aren't here to make things perfect. The snowflakes are perfect. The stars are perfect. Not us. Not us! We are here to ruin ourselves and to break our hearts and love the wrong people and die." And Puccini playing in the background is just too much for one heart.

Another noteworthy film in this category is the adaptation of Jane Austen's novel "Persuasion". Ciaran Hinds superbly played the role of Captain Wentworth who was still besotted with the character of Anne Elliott after 8 years. Towards the end of the film he writes her a letter, and I just have to share it here since we are celebrating love;

Dearest Anne,

I can listen no longer in silence. I must speak to you by such means as are within my reach. You pierce my soul. I am half agony, half hope. Tell me not that I am too late, that such precious feelings are gone forever. I offer myself to you again with a heart even more your own, than when you almost broke it eight years and a half ago. Dare not say that man forgets sooner than woman, that his love has an earlier death. I have loved none but you. Unjust I may have been, weak and resentful I have been, but never unconstant. You alone have brought me to Bath. For you alone I think and plan. Have you not seen this? Can you fail to have understood my wishes? I had not waited even these ten days, could I have read your feelings, as I think you must have penetrated mine. I can hardly write. I am every instant hearing something which overpowers me. You sink your voice, but I can distinguish the tones of that voice, when they would be lost on others. Too good, too excellent creature! You do us justice indeed. You do believe that there is true attachment and constancy among men. Believe it to be most fervent, most undeviating in. I must go uncertain of my fate but I shall return to follow your party as soon as possible. A word, a look will be enough to decide whether I enter your father's house this evening or never."

F. Wentworth

Awwwwwwwwwww!!! I can not remember how many times I had to go back to that scene over and over again, you have to see it to believe it.

Other honorable mention films will be "Crossing Delancey", "Before Sunrise/Before Sunset", "The Goodbye Girl", "When Harry Met Sally", "Serendipity", & "Eternal Sunshine of the Spotless Mind".

I just love these films. Like our just engaged friend Richard here, I just love being in love too. ;D

Congratulations man, It's babies then death from here on in. Oh yeah and may years of love of course..

A big congratulations Rich. Well done..... FINALLY! ;-)

The best film to sum up marriage is Bambi. Feck all sex.

My most sincere congratulations, Richard. May the love stay with you... always.

I don´t know many films concerning marriage. Maybe because marriage is the end of a story, and it´s difficult to make a good one out of it, unless it´s an incidental, undesirable one.

The loveliest movie I remember about this is the Quiet Man, by John Ford. For those who don´t remember, it´s that one ET is watching while getting drunk and Elliott being in class.

Congratulations sir!

Without a doubt the best wedding movie is 'The Philadelphia Story' with Cary Grant and James Stewart (and the musical remake 'High Society' ain't bad either). Good example of true love will out. Best scene is Jimmy Stewart drunk - apparently Cary Grant found it really difficult not to laugh whilst acting the scenes.

Congratulations Richard.

Now, I know this is going to sound off the wall but...Mr. and Mrs. Smith. Before you laugh, keep in mind that I've been married 13 years (and no, I'm not that old...I just married young). The movie shows you how easy it is to fall into routine where the color of curtains on your living room windows is more important than physical or emotional intimacy (or lack thereof). Most couples will find a situation in the movie that elicits an uncomfortable laugh. Use it as a reminder to break out of routine and to remind yourself what you love about your wife.

Good luck.

Congratulations my friend.

Congratulations again Richard. I hope you weren't too ill on Sunday...

Hey Rich, another film I recommend that you and your betrothed should watch together is Neil Simon's "Barefoot in the Park", it's hilarious! It stars Robert Redford and Jane Fonda, I just saw it again now. ;D

Congratulations Richard! I hope all of us 'Stalkers will be invited to the shin-dig! ;o)

Anyway, I'm not too sure about a movie to "get married to...", but for me the one film that can make you appreciate your significant other more than any other is the wonderful Eternal Sunshine Of The Spotless Mind.

It is just such a marvelous movie.

There are times in everybody's lives and relationships where they are run down and shitty. Everything seems crap. You want to erase the bad memories. But it is viewing a movie like Eternal Sunshine... that makes you appreciate all of your memories.

Good comes with bad in every aspect of life. Without the bad, you wouldn't truly cherish the good.

Any time I watch Eternal Sunshine..., it evokes so many memories of my own life.

It really makes you cherish every single magical moment with that one magical person.

Congratulations! And can I reccomend True Lies for no other reason than hap has already sugested Mr and Mrs Smith.

Oh, and Kill Bill. Never get on the wrong side of The Bride ;o)

F.W. Murnau's Sunrise. Hollywood may make 100,000 romantic comedies, but this is the film that says more about what an astonishing thing the love between two people is than any of those films ever will.

Congratulations, Richard! How exciting! My film would have to be So I Married an Axe Murderer. Matrimony at its finest!

Sunrise was in my initial list. What a beautiful movie. Good choice, James!

Scorsese pays a beautiful homage to sunrise in Kundun, when the young lama watches cinema for the first time.

James, that sounds to me like youve got some prejudice regarding rom-coms? I doubt if youve ever seen any? Maybe you can start with my recommendations? ;D

All Hail Richard!.... Lord Of The Rings!

Thanks everyone for your congratulations! I have to say I'm loving some of these more unusual choices, particularly the explanations for them.

Mr and Mrs Smith, Bambi, Married an Axe Murder are all superb ones, and they made both of us laugh!

And thrice, congratulations!

Mr Morrow, :lol:

The War of the Roses. Just don't piss on the fish!

Many congratulations Richard. You've got a wonderful girl. Many happy years to you both.

I am happy for the both of you, you are a smashing couple and wish you all the best.

Martin and Peters singing together on the beach is the most romantic scene, in any movie, of all time.

The movie is the Jerk; and I hope you both find a thermos for two.

congratulations Richard!!!

... I'm not big on romantic films, but "When Harry Met Sally" is a great film.

Asian Rom Coms "Fighting for Love" and "Love me, love my money" are sweet.

Congratulations Richard! I wish you and your fiance all the happiness!

When I think of romantic movies or those about getting engaged...these comes to mind...The Princess Bride, Pride and Prejudice (1940 and BBC mini), When Harry Met Sally, Father of the Bride (both versions!)...oh I know there are more, but I'm drawing a blank right now.

Well done old chap... Many congratulations - and as a veteran of 12 yrs of marriage I can confirm that whilst getting married often seems like a good idea at the time -

if you've found the right woman then it certainly is!!

Marriage film for me is THE CROW (you know - I really like the idea of 'love never dies' but if it does: you get to come back as a stylish avenging unstoppable killing machine and murder the f**k out of the whole criminal underworld).

One of my favourite scenes in any film ever is where the Crow turns up at the evildoers planning meeting and takes out the whole room full of them with massive gunplay whilst quipping "not a good day to be a bad guy"... love it!!

Many thanks everybody for your kind words, this last week has been totally manic and there are so many more things to do now that I'm engaged. Luckily they're all fun, and none of them are detracting from Filmstalker...Don't I mean that the other way around?

Spidey, if we don't invite you all we'll webcast it to all the stalkers!

I love all the off the wall suggestions here, some of them are superb, and surprisingly accurate!

Congrats Richard!

Congratulations Rich

How about Meet the Fockers? or Don't eat the Duck Egg? :))

Cheers Emma - No one else will know that I got toxic food poisoning from a duck egg nay fifteen minutes after the proposition!

Hi Richard

late to the party, I know; but what about "A Touch of Evil"? Charlton Heston was on his honeymoon, after all...

Actually, a sensible comment here: One From The Heart - the movie that broke Coppola's Zoetrope studios. It is a beautiful (though critically slated) movie. And all the visually trickery was done with lighting.

Now if she sees that Patrick, I think you might just be in trouble!

woohooo! oh yeah. Z is a lucky girl.

Films to get married to?

I'm thinking the exorcist....



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